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Authentic Masculinity. Recognizing external socialization. Discovering self. Giving up performing & mask wearing. Aligning with full authenticity & humanity. Living in integrity.

Men are socialized, as soon as we enter this world, about how we should think, feel, and behave as men AND how we should not think, feel, and behave as men. This gender socialization is so successful that my research participants couldn’t tell me when they first learned it, because they couldn’t remember not knowing […]

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Supporting survivors. Safety. Believe. "It is not your fault. Empower.

When I speak about preventing sexual violence on college campuses, I often share brief definitions of different forms of sexual violence including sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape. Once I’ve given these brief definitions I then ask, “How many of you know someone who has experienced sexual violence?” Again and again, on campuses across the […]

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I’ve conducted 10 years of interviews on men’s identity development. I initially interviewed the participants when they were in college about what it meant to them to be a man, what influenced that, and how it changed over time. Five years later, I interviewed them again in their mid-20s. And just this summer, as they are in […]

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Last week, I had the wonderful opportunity to guest host the Student Affairs Live edition of Higher Ed Live. Thanks to regular host Heather Shea Gasser for inviting me to host while she was out of the country. I invited four folks who I have and continue to learn from on this and many other topics […]

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Short Version That is the most intense thing I have ever done in my life. The video should be out in a month or so. Long Version 30 Seconds of Joy and then… I was invited to apply to give a TEDx Talk by a member of the content team at Penn State. I found out […]

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In the spirit of often mocked but often clickable end of the year listicles, here are the top posts from this blog in 2015. #1 Top Post Pride, Responsibility, and Accountability in Fraternities By far the most clicked and most read was this frustrated rant I sent off on the morning I dropped my daughter […]

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Here is a brief recap of most of the books I “read” in 2015. I put “read” in quotes as I listen to most of these via Audible as I workout, commute, or travel. Perhaps you’ll add some of these to your reading list and make a suggestion or two that you think I should […]

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I reblogged Emiliano C. Diaz de Leon‘s very helpful list of 20 Useful Videos to Engage Men in Gender-Based Violence Prevention Work. I often use videos in my work to help convey ideas in different ways, bring in different voices, engage learners in different ways, and bring emotion to the topics. Here are some of the […]

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As more acts of injustice become apparent to us and more folks are doing social justice (I hope that is true), it is more important than ever that we talk deeply about not just the problem of oppression or even the goal of justice, but also focus on the process of what can be more […]

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Thanks to Dustin Ramsdell for inviting Jody Jessup-Anger and I to discuss sexual violence prevention and response and the ACPA Presidential Task Force’s monograph Beyond Compliance. It was a great conversation. We got into some of the real challenges and opportunities in sexual violence prevention in higher education today. Access the podcast here.  

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