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Authentic Masculinity. Recognizing external socialization. Discovering self. Giving up performing & mask wearing. Aligning with full authenticity & humanity. Living in integrity.

Men are socialized, as soon as we enter this world, about how we should think, feel, and behave as men AND how we should not think, feel, and behave as men. This gender socialization is so successful that my research participants couldn’t tell me when they first learned it, because they couldn’t remember not knowing […]

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I’ve conducted 10 years of interviews on men’s identity development. I initially interviewed the participants when they were in college about what it meant to them to be a man, what influenced that, and how it changed over time. Five years later, I interviewed them again in their mid-20s. And just this summer, as they are in […]

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Nearly 15 years ago, I got the opportunity to see Mike Domitrz speak at George Mason University. His talk with clear about consent, full of relatable humor, and powerfully centered survivors. He also kindly spent a few minutes connecting with me then as I was just getting started speaking about sexual violence prevention on college […]

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Last week I was at the AFA/ASCA Title IX Institute. As a result of the sessions from great presenters I attended and conversation I had outside sessions, I’ve been reflecting on how the curse of knowledge can get in the way of sexual violence prevention. The curse of knowledge is that once you know something […]

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Last week, I had the wonderful opportunity to guest host the Student Affairs Live edition of Higher Ed Live. Thanks to regular host Heather Shea Gasser for inviting me to host while she was out of the country. I invited four folks who I have and continue to learn from on this and many other topics […]

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The Brock Turner rape conviction and shocking sentence of 6 months in jail has been getting lots of attention over the past week. It has flooded traditional and social media with coverage, blogs, response, and outrage. This has crossed over to attention from the general public, and not just those who do advocacy and prevention on […]

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Short Version That is the most intense thing I have ever done in my life. The video should be out in a month or so. Long Version 30 Seconds of Joy and then… I was invited to apply to give a TEDx Talk by a member of the content team at Penn State. I found out […]

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In the spirit of often mocked but often clickable end of the year listicles, here are the top posts from this blog in 2015. #1 Top Post Pride, Responsibility, and Accountability in Fraternities By far the most clicked and most read was this frustrated rant I sent off on the morning I dropped my daughter […]

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I just dropped my five year-old daughter off at kindergarten today. Emotional moment for me as a parent. So proud of her but so aware of how vulnerable she is the world. As I was sitting and waiting for her to walk with her classmates to their classroom on their first day, I see a […]

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For my dissertation research, I conducted a series of three hour long interviews with 10 college men about their identity as men. I asked them about what it means to be a man, how that had changed over time, and what influenced those changes. All I did was ask questions and deeply listen. There was […]

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