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Authentic Masculinity. Recognizing external socialization. Discovering self. Giving up performing & mask wearing. Aligning with full authenticity & humanity. Living in integrity.

Men are socialized, as soon as we enter this world, about how we should think, feel, and behave as men AND how we should not think, feel, and behave as men. This gender socialization is so successful that my research participants couldn’t tell me when they first learned it, because they couldn’t remember not knowing […]

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Supporting survivors. Safety. Believe. "It is not your fault. Empower.

When I speak about preventing sexual violence on college campuses, I often share brief definitions of different forms of sexual violence including sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape. Once I’ve given these brief definitions I then ask, “How many of you know someone who has experienced sexual violence?” Again and again, on campuses across the […]

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On Sunday evening I had the opportunity to hear Brené Brown speak in Minneapolis about her new book, Braving the Wilderness, which came out on Tuesday. I’ve benefitted greatly from Brené Brown’s work including her previous books; Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong as well as her TED Talks. Her ideas and concepts have been helpful in my presentations, […]

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Do you have a voice inside you that you trust? Could getting more clarity about that voice help you access it more readily? Could it help you trust your instincts or connect with what your brain is processing right below your level of conscious awareness? One of the things I learned in my coaching certification […]

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Last week I had the opportunity to read an advance copy of Kathy Obear‘s book In It For the Long Haul: Overcoming Burnout and Passion Fatigue as Social Justice Change Agents. Her book is out today and available for free download. In It For the Long Haul is a much-needed look at burnout and sustainability […]

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A couple of months ago, I had the opportunity to read an advance copy of Jessica Pettitt’s book Good Enough Now. The book is out today! Good Enough Now is a great book explaining how to really do the personal work to effectively raise awareness and engage in action around diversity, inclusion, and social justice. I really appreciated the […]

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A couple of years ago, I had the opportunity to attend a day long mindfulness retreat with Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction. This was a wonderful experience for a variety of reasons including the luxury of devoting a full day to building my mindfulness practice with wisdom and guided exercises (meditation, mindful lunch, […]

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The Book of Joy chronicled a week of conversations between His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu in Dharamsala, India to celebrate the Dalai Lama’s 80th birthday. The two spiritual leaders discussed joy based on the similarities and differences in their spiritual traditions and lifetimes facing hardship, violent oppression, and genocide. Douglas Abrams participated […]

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Last week at the ACPA Annual Convention, I was invited by the Commission for Social Justice Educators (CSJE) to share some history of the Commission’s coming into being 11 years ago. I was also invited to share some thoughts on the future of social justice education in higher education. I worked with several other good folks […]

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  Earlier this week I had the opportunity to read an advance copy of Kathy Obear‘s book …But I’m Not Racist: Tools for Well-Meaning Whites. …But I’m Not Racist is a wonderful exploration of whiteness, white identity, white supremacy, and anti-racism work from Kathy Obear. Kathy shares her wisdom and insight from decades of experience facilitating workshops […]

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